A little update with the whole dress freak out. It is better, for the most part. I am no longer concerned about it not fitting or looking bad. I talked to Colby's grandma today for a while, the person who is actually doing the dresses, and got some answers that really helped. She gave me the pattern number so I could look it up online and actually see what they are going to look like. They are not at all what I had pictured. I was most shocked to find out they are not floor length. This changes my shoes plans and what shoes I get because everyone will be able to see them. Anyways they will be purple with a white ribbon under the bust line and a halter top with a gather in the middle of the bodice. They are going to be super easy for his grandma to make (she sews a lot) so if she needs to adjust mine the night before it should be no problem. She also talked to a lady at the fabric store about how to adjust my hem line to account for the belly and make it all even at the bottom. The stress for that is over.
Harpers dress on the other hand I am a little concerned about. The dress part that his grandma is making I'm not worried about fitting. She has the measurements and if its a little big so what. The concern comes from what I learned today talking to grandma. They, whitney and nichole I would guess, are making a tutu out of sparkly tulle to go over the dresses for the little girls. This will just have an elastic waistband and slip over their dress. The tutu is what I am concerned about looking horrible. I know they have a tendency to make them huge and very full and I don't want it to over power the girls. Hopefully it is just a couple layers of tulle and it looks cute but alas living here and everyone else being there means I will have to wait until Friday night before the wedding to see what everything looks like and how it is going to fit.
Im done stressing about it because how its meant to turn out is how it will and I can't do anything to change that. I just need to make sure I am ready with everything else. Now I get to go shoe shopping and probably get two new pairs of shoes. I also may be getting a new bra, woohoo…not, and then pick out what jewelry would look good. I might be making the programs too but still waiting to hear on that so if I don't hear anything I won't make them and thats that.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Where's the Communication??
So all this wedding stuff happening so quickly it has everyone stressing out. The lack of communication going on definitely isn't helping. I have always felt the communication with Colby's family was not great especially when it came to keeping us informed. I think it may be worse right now. The main problem we have is that we live so far away and can never get a hold of anyone. They don't answer questions and then the people we do get a hold of eventually don't always have the right information or any answers at all. We have offered to help with whatever is needed but no one tells us if they actually want us to do anything. Today I actually talked to the bride and she made a comment about me offering to do the programs but never actually said if she wanted me to do them or not. I'm just going to have to try again.
The huge communication problem we are having is with the attire and who is actually doing what. For example they already planned on Harper being a flower girl, got stuff to make her a dress and a matching clip with her cousin Myra, the other flower girl but didn't ask/tell us until today. This only happened after Colby was taking to Myra's mom and made a comment about how we were just assuming Harper wasn't in the wedding since we haven't been told anything. Guess its a good thing he was talking to her or else we would of never known until we got there the day before.
That is another thing. We aren't going to see anyone or be down there until the afternoon before the ceremony. At first Julia had said it would be easier if I/my mom made my bridesmaids dress considering my current situation (a belly and boobs that are pretty much growing everyday and will until I give birth) but now apparently their grandma, who is doing the rest of the dresses, is going to make mine and Harpers dress. I don't like the idea of this since I won't ever get to try it on before I have to wear it and no time to take it in or let it out. I was told his grandma thinks it will be fine if she makes mine because she will just make it bigger where it flairs out so my belly will for sure fit. That concerns me because the measurements I give her would be with how big my belly is right now and it wouldn't necessarily need to be that much bigger (I wouldn't think). I don't want her to make it so big just to have room to grow and then I end up looking just fat and frumpy in this oversized dress. I would prefer to look like a cute pregnant lady. I would also like to know what it looks like so I know what kind of undergarments I need to wear. Maybe I am just being overly controlling but I would rather have the opportunity to try it on and then adjust it before the wedding ins't of just hoping it fits when I get there. I am not as worried about Harpers dress but again I just don't like the idea of never seeing something that we are suppose to be wearing for such a big event with pictures that will be around for a long long time.
This is really stressing me out and I don't need the extra stress. We are already trying to make it by with just one income and its hard!! We are really feeling the pressure of running out of money right now. That stress on top of all this not knowing crap with the wedding is just almost too much. I'm trying to not worry about either one too much because I know it will all work out eventually its just having the faith while getting there that is hard.
The huge communication problem we are having is with the attire and who is actually doing what. For example they already planned on Harper being a flower girl, got stuff to make her a dress and a matching clip with her cousin Myra, the other flower girl but didn't ask/tell us until today. This only happened after Colby was taking to Myra's mom and made a comment about how we were just assuming Harper wasn't in the wedding since we haven't been told anything. Guess its a good thing he was talking to her or else we would of never known until we got there the day before.
That is another thing. We aren't going to see anyone or be down there until the afternoon before the ceremony. At first Julia had said it would be easier if I/my mom made my bridesmaids dress considering my current situation (a belly and boobs that are pretty much growing everyday and will until I give birth) but now apparently their grandma, who is doing the rest of the dresses, is going to make mine and Harpers dress. I don't like the idea of this since I won't ever get to try it on before I have to wear it and no time to take it in or let it out. I was told his grandma thinks it will be fine if she makes mine because she will just make it bigger where it flairs out so my belly will for sure fit. That concerns me because the measurements I give her would be with how big my belly is right now and it wouldn't necessarily need to be that much bigger (I wouldn't think). I don't want her to make it so big just to have room to grow and then I end up looking just fat and frumpy in this oversized dress. I would prefer to look like a cute pregnant lady. I would also like to know what it looks like so I know what kind of undergarments I need to wear. Maybe I am just being overly controlling but I would rather have the opportunity to try it on and then adjust it before the wedding ins't of just hoping it fits when I get there. I am not as worried about Harpers dress but again I just don't like the idea of never seeing something that we are suppose to be wearing for such a big event with pictures that will be around for a long long time.
This is really stressing me out and I don't need the extra stress. We are already trying to make it by with just one income and its hard!! We are really feeling the pressure of running out of money right now. That stress on top of all this not knowing crap with the wedding is just almost too much. I'm trying to not worry about either one too much because I know it will all work out eventually its just having the faith while getting there that is hard.
Monday, October 10, 2011
5 weeks…!?!?!
Yesterday, Sunday, Colby and I received some interesting news via text message from his brother, Austin. Austin and his girlfriend had gotten engaged in June and were planning a wedding for next June. Colby talked to him a couple weeks again and they didn't know anything about plans and were considering just going to the courthouse to get married and then having a reception later. Well that is not the case anymore. They will be getting married November 19. Yes this November. Yes, in less then 5 weeks. This also means I will look like a huge pregnant lady in the wedding pictures being a good 8 1/2 months pregnant, 3 weeks from my due date!!
Me being that close to my due date is not really a concern for anyone because they hadn't even really started planning yet and now have to get everything put together in about 5 weeks. I have offered to help but being 6 hours away there is only a limited amount I can do. I am suppose to be helping my mom make my bridesmaid dress. However, we are going to be waiting until the beginning of November to start so we have a better idea of how big my belly and boobs are going to be.
I really hope that everything works out for them and they can get everything down and don't forget anything. Marriage is a huge thing to get into and I really hope they are ready and get everything they want in this wedding and aren't settling just to get it done. I do have concerns about them not being ready to be married like they are still living at home. I hope they can afford to get their own place really soon after the wedding. I really try to just keep my opinions to myself because this is their life and they need to do what they want and they rest of us should just be there to support their decisions. One thing however that Colby and I have been talking about that is Austin needs to figure out and let everyone know what is going on with their mother. She is really only a part of Austin's life so we are pretty sure she will be invited but none of the other boys really care to have her in their lives. One big thing with us is that we didn't tell her about this baby but it will be hard to conceal if she is there. Also he needs to consider that Julia really really dislikes her and can hardly stand to be in the same room as her. This is important to keep in mind since Julia is letting them use a lot of her wedding stuff, is doing a lot to make the wedding happen so quickly and it letting them both live at her house.
This will be a couple of crazy and potentially drama filled weeks ahead of us and I hope everyone involved can remember what this is all for and the true meaning behind the craziness.
A little baby update. He is growing great, my weight is great, not too much or too little, and my blood pressure is nice and low. He is moving a lot. I can really feel it almost to the point that it hurts a little when he kicks me or just moves around. You can actually see my belly move around when he does. Its kind of creepy but really cool at the same time too. I also have been getting heartburn really bad again with this one. Supposedly this means the baby will be born with hair but we will have to wait and see I guess. The due date is fast approaching, just like the wedding!! Less then 5 weeks till the wedding and less then 8 weeks till my due date. There is a lot to do but the dates won't wait for us to get everything done so we better just be prepared.
Me being that close to my due date is not really a concern for anyone because they hadn't even really started planning yet and now have to get everything put together in about 5 weeks. I have offered to help but being 6 hours away there is only a limited amount I can do. I am suppose to be helping my mom make my bridesmaid dress. However, we are going to be waiting until the beginning of November to start so we have a better idea of how big my belly and boobs are going to be.
I really hope that everything works out for them and they can get everything down and don't forget anything. Marriage is a huge thing to get into and I really hope they are ready and get everything they want in this wedding and aren't settling just to get it done. I do have concerns about them not being ready to be married like they are still living at home. I hope they can afford to get their own place really soon after the wedding. I really try to just keep my opinions to myself because this is their life and they need to do what they want and they rest of us should just be there to support their decisions. One thing however that Colby and I have been talking about that is Austin needs to figure out and let everyone know what is going on with their mother. She is really only a part of Austin's life so we are pretty sure she will be invited but none of the other boys really care to have her in their lives. One big thing with us is that we didn't tell her about this baby but it will be hard to conceal if she is there. Also he needs to consider that Julia really really dislikes her and can hardly stand to be in the same room as her. This is important to keep in mind since Julia is letting them use a lot of her wedding stuff, is doing a lot to make the wedding happen so quickly and it letting them both live at her house.
This will be a couple of crazy and potentially drama filled weeks ahead of us and I hope everyone involved can remember what this is all for and the true meaning behind the craziness.
A little baby update. He is growing great, my weight is great, not too much or too little, and my blood pressure is nice and low. He is moving a lot. I can really feel it almost to the point that it hurts a little when he kicks me or just moves around. You can actually see my belly move around when he does. Its kind of creepy but really cool at the same time too. I also have been getting heartburn really bad again with this one. Supposedly this means the baby will be born with hair but we will have to wait and see I guess. The due date is fast approaching, just like the wedding!! Less then 5 weeks till the wedding and less then 8 weeks till my due date. There is a lot to do but the dates won't wait for us to get everything done so we better just be prepared.
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