Well the wedding happened. It was definitely a lot different then any other wedding I have been to but that is ok. My dress didn't fit real well as I suspected it wouldn't. It was too tight around my belly since I was carrying the baby so high and then the zipper puckered in the back. My top was too big but then was also too low and I felt that my bra was always showing. My hem was longer in the front then it was in the back. But that is past now.
The next weeks were pretty uneventful. Just getting ready for Christmas and the baby. However, the friday before we were going to have the baby Harper rolled off the couch and landed on the drying rack I had set up and knocked out one of her front teeth. She is fine and it came out completely and cleanly so it should not affect anything later in her life. We just have to wait for her permanent tooth to come in.
Now on to the big news. Friday morning we went to the hospital bright and early at 7:30 am. I was past my due date so the doctor decided it would be ok to get things going since I had been making some progress on my own. He broke my water about 8:30 and about 8 hours later we had our little boy. Waylon Dean weighted 8 lbs 2 oz. He is doing really well. Sleeping a lot and wanting to eat a lot which makes it hard for this mommy to get sleep during the night. I have not been taking as many naps during the day as I thought I would want to but I think I will the rest of this week especially since Harper is not her. My sister is watching her this week so we can get settled in with Waylon. I miss her so badly though. I know things this week are easier without her but I still miss her especially when Colby is at work at night. It is really hard for me and it makes me want to cry missing both of them so much. I know its ok to cry and I have. I just want my family together and my husband here at night. Colby made a suggestion today and he though I wouldn't like it but he was completely wrong. He wants to start looking for a job on days be it at Twin City or somewhere else. It has to pay just as much or more then his current job but we would both love for him to be on days. He has been waiting at Twin City since he started for a day position to open up for him but nothing has yet. I hope he can find something somewhere soon. I really HATE him working nights!!
Well Waylon is telling me he is hungry so I better wrap it up.
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Monday, November 14, 2011
Time Passing so Fast
So its the week of the wedding. I can't believe it is actually this weekend. Not only because it came up so fast but also that means I only have 3 weeks till my due date!!! THREE WEEKS. This pregnancy has gone by so so fast. I think it has a lot to do with having a child already. I haven't really had time to just slow down and think about the pregnancy because Harper needs me to be there for her. Its very important to me to spend as much time with her before the new baby comes and her whole world is changed. I do worry about being able to divide my love and attention between the two kids but I know I can do it. It will all be here before we know it and is going to come if I am ready or not.
Back to wedding stuff. As strange as it seems they are still making changes this week. But that is their choice as it is their wedding, we are just supporters. I have the programs done. They may not be 100% right on the order of the ceremony but its what I had. They look pretty good if I do say so myself. At this point the only thing I am concerned about is the clothes. Not one of us has what we will be wearing for the wedding except our shoes! It just makes me nervous having all these other people in charge of our attire and I have no control over how they will fit, look or even when they will arrive!! The big thing everyone is stressing about is that they will not be able to decorate the reception site until 1pm Saturday afternoon. That is only 2 1/2 before they are suppose to be walking down the aisle. Lets hope everything gets done.
The biggest news from this weekend is we are having another wedding. Jamie (finally!!) proposed to Whitney and put a ring on it. I know Whitney has been very patiently waiting for this to happen…probably more patient then I would of been. The date is going to be Sept. 1, 2012. That is labor day weekend, which is the SD State Fair also and we are sad we might have to miss all of it. I'm not sure if I mentioned it before on here but there would be times when talking to Whitney it seemed like she had the wedding planned for the most part already but you asked her something specific like the month or date so would make a comment about needing the ring first. Well apparently that wasn't entirely true. They just got engaged this weekend but they already had the date picked, venue booked and wedding dress bought. She told Colby they already have a lot planned and have been planning things since September. This doesn't surprise me really. I started planning my wedding before Colby actually asked me. I had the month picked but not the date, colors, attendants, choices for food, etc. The one thing she already has planned/picked that I was surprised to hear was the wedding dress. She did this alone. I thought it was fun going dress shopping with my mom and friend. I think maybe Whitney's mother, sister, friends, people like that would have liked to go shopping with her. That is suppose to be a special moment for a mother and daughter but whatever. It will definitely be different watching the planning of their wedding unfold then it was watching the one this weekend. Not only does Whitney have more time but also seems to be more organized. But all of that is whatever since I am sure, just like the wedding this weekend, we will be pretty much left out of the loop. I guess its not a shock since we are on the grooms side and they usually don't have much input. Not only am I on the grooms side I am also just his sister-in-law. Not exactly the first person they will think of when planning things or talking to about what is going on.
So 2 years after Colby and I were married, two of his other brothers are following along. We are excited for everyone and it will definitely be a change. When we got married I was the only wife and none of the other boys even had girlfriends. Now 3 of the boys will have a wife within the next year and we will be in the majority now being a married couple with kids. Everyone is growing up, even though I think Colby's parents wish that wasn't the case. My hope for the future is all of us, brothers and their wives, can get along and become close, having a relationship where we are all a part of each others lives even though we won't be living right next to each other. Only time will tell and this blog, if I can keep it up!!
Back to wedding stuff. As strange as it seems they are still making changes this week. But that is their choice as it is their wedding, we are just supporters. I have the programs done. They may not be 100% right on the order of the ceremony but its what I had. They look pretty good if I do say so myself. At this point the only thing I am concerned about is the clothes. Not one of us has what we will be wearing for the wedding except our shoes! It just makes me nervous having all these other people in charge of our attire and I have no control over how they will fit, look or even when they will arrive!! The big thing everyone is stressing about is that they will not be able to decorate the reception site until 1pm Saturday afternoon. That is only 2 1/2 before they are suppose to be walking down the aisle. Lets hope everything gets done.
The biggest news from this weekend is we are having another wedding. Jamie (finally!!) proposed to Whitney and put a ring on it. I know Whitney has been very patiently waiting for this to happen…probably more patient then I would of been. The date is going to be Sept. 1, 2012. That is labor day weekend, which is the SD State Fair also and we are sad we might have to miss all of it. I'm not sure if I mentioned it before on here but there would be times when talking to Whitney it seemed like she had the wedding planned for the most part already but you asked her something specific like the month or date so would make a comment about needing the ring first. Well apparently that wasn't entirely true. They just got engaged this weekend but they already had the date picked, venue booked and wedding dress bought. She told Colby they already have a lot planned and have been planning things since September. This doesn't surprise me really. I started planning my wedding before Colby actually asked me. I had the month picked but not the date, colors, attendants, choices for food, etc. The one thing she already has planned/picked that I was surprised to hear was the wedding dress. She did this alone. I thought it was fun going dress shopping with my mom and friend. I think maybe Whitney's mother, sister, friends, people like that would have liked to go shopping with her. That is suppose to be a special moment for a mother and daughter but whatever. It will definitely be different watching the planning of their wedding unfold then it was watching the one this weekend. Not only does Whitney have more time but also seems to be more organized. But all of that is whatever since I am sure, just like the wedding this weekend, we will be pretty much left out of the loop. I guess its not a shock since we are on the grooms side and they usually don't have much input. Not only am I on the grooms side I am also just his sister-in-law. Not exactly the first person they will think of when planning things or talking to about what is going on.
So 2 years after Colby and I were married, two of his other brothers are following along. We are excited for everyone and it will definitely be a change. When we got married I was the only wife and none of the other boys even had girlfriends. Now 3 of the boys will have a wife within the next year and we will be in the majority now being a married couple with kids. Everyone is growing up, even though I think Colby's parents wish that wasn't the case. My hope for the future is all of us, brothers and their wives, can get along and become close, having a relationship where we are all a part of each others lives even though we won't be living right next to each other. Only time will tell and this blog, if I can keep it up!!
Monday, November 7, 2011
Heartburn and headaches
First off the heartburn. When I was pregnant the first time, I got heartburn pretty bad for most of my last trimester. So when I started my third trimester this time around I expected heartburn. However, I wasn't really getting any. Now that I am down to my last monthish the heartburn has set in and seems to be here to stay. I have been getting it pretty bad everyday, and in most cases, all day lately. This thursday I only have 4 weeks left so hopefully I can just tough it out and get through it, I mean this is nothing compared to labor right?
Now to the headaches part. Not a physical headache but more of just figurative one. This wedding is only 12 days away. I have not gotten any form of conformation on the program order and need to start printing them. If I don't hear anything in the next couple days I am just going to start printing them and say how I made them is how they are going to be. The other thing that we found out today that was kind of frustrating has to do with the groomsmens ties. Colby's brother, the groom, said it didn't matter what they wore as long as it was a purple tie. We disagreed with everyone having different ties so today while we were looking for a tie for Colby they had enough of the one he liked to get one for his other two brothers. Before we bought them though, I wanted to make sure they didn't already have a tie they were planning to wear. Colby ended up calling his brothers girlfriend, the maid of honor, since his brother was at work and she usually know about everything that is happening. She informed us that the bride was getting all the groomsmen matching ties so we didn't need to worry about it. This is the third different thing we have heard about these dumb ties. I really hope she does get the ties and we aren't out trying to find matching ties for all of them the night before the wedding.
We are so close to the day and it seems as though there are many questions unanswered still. I guess we are just not in the loop enough with everything since we live in a different state. Im just hoping they are not expecting us to do anything else with out asking or confirming that they want us to do it. There has been A LOT of assuming going on with the bride and groom and other people doing things. For example, I offered to look up readings and even read them during the ceremony if they wanted. I never heard anything either way so I was just gonna forget it. But alas we are doing the readings and we had to hear it from someone else.
The only thing I am concerned about that I have asked about more then once is how they are planning to get the little girls down the aisle. All they tell me is Colby's little sister will be escorting them. What is that suppose to mean? Will they be in something or is she carrying the our niece, who can't walk on her own or very well holding onto someone yet, and then Harper is suppose to walk next to them? Our niece is about 3 months younger then but weighs more then Harper. I don't know how Colby's sister, who is only 11, is going to carry one toddler down the aisle while still worrying about Harper who is walking. Also Harper can be kind of shy sometimes when a lot of people are watching her and when she is around people she doesn't really know, which will be everyone there besides Colby and I. Maybe with us at the end of the aisle she will want to walk to us but I can not guarantee she will or be happy about doing it. Guess we will just have to wait and see how everything goes or if anyone tells about whats going on.
Even though I am 99% sure this baby will not be coming until December, I have been having thoughts and dreams about the baby coming righting before the wedding or while we are down there. Its just pregnancy I'm sure but I have always had weird dreams so it doesn't worry me but still I do not, I mean really do NOT want to have this baby down in Kansas hopefully the baby feels the same way.
Now to the headaches part. Not a physical headache but more of just figurative one. This wedding is only 12 days away. I have not gotten any form of conformation on the program order and need to start printing them. If I don't hear anything in the next couple days I am just going to start printing them and say how I made them is how they are going to be. The other thing that we found out today that was kind of frustrating has to do with the groomsmens ties. Colby's brother, the groom, said it didn't matter what they wore as long as it was a purple tie. We disagreed with everyone having different ties so today while we were looking for a tie for Colby they had enough of the one he liked to get one for his other two brothers. Before we bought them though, I wanted to make sure they didn't already have a tie they were planning to wear. Colby ended up calling his brothers girlfriend, the maid of honor, since his brother was at work and she usually know about everything that is happening. She informed us that the bride was getting all the groomsmen matching ties so we didn't need to worry about it. This is the third different thing we have heard about these dumb ties. I really hope she does get the ties and we aren't out trying to find matching ties for all of them the night before the wedding.
We are so close to the day and it seems as though there are many questions unanswered still. I guess we are just not in the loop enough with everything since we live in a different state. Im just hoping they are not expecting us to do anything else with out asking or confirming that they want us to do it. There has been A LOT of assuming going on with the bride and groom and other people doing things. For example, I offered to look up readings and even read them during the ceremony if they wanted. I never heard anything either way so I was just gonna forget it. But alas we are doing the readings and we had to hear it from someone else.
The only thing I am concerned about that I have asked about more then once is how they are planning to get the little girls down the aisle. All they tell me is Colby's little sister will be escorting them. What is that suppose to mean? Will they be in something or is she carrying the our niece, who can't walk on her own or very well holding onto someone yet, and then Harper is suppose to walk next to them? Our niece is about 3 months younger then but weighs more then Harper. I don't know how Colby's sister, who is only 11, is going to carry one toddler down the aisle while still worrying about Harper who is walking. Also Harper can be kind of shy sometimes when a lot of people are watching her and when she is around people she doesn't really know, which will be everyone there besides Colby and I. Maybe with us at the end of the aisle she will want to walk to us but I can not guarantee she will or be happy about doing it. Guess we will just have to wait and see how everything goes or if anyone tells about whats going on.
Even though I am 99% sure this baby will not be coming until December, I have been having thoughts and dreams about the baby coming righting before the wedding or while we are down there. Its just pregnancy I'm sure but I have always had weird dreams so it doesn't worry me but still I do not, I mean really do NOT want to have this baby down in Kansas hopefully the baby feels the same way.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Everything is better…kind of
A little update with the whole dress freak out. It is better, for the most part. I am no longer concerned about it not fitting or looking bad. I talked to Colby's grandma today for a while, the person who is actually doing the dresses, and got some answers that really helped. She gave me the pattern number so I could look it up online and actually see what they are going to look like. They are not at all what I had pictured. I was most shocked to find out they are not floor length. This changes my shoes plans and what shoes I get because everyone will be able to see them. Anyways they will be purple with a white ribbon under the bust line and a halter top with a gather in the middle of the bodice. They are going to be super easy for his grandma to make (she sews a lot) so if she needs to adjust mine the night before it should be no problem. She also talked to a lady at the fabric store about how to adjust my hem line to account for the belly and make it all even at the bottom. The stress for that is over.
Harpers dress on the other hand I am a little concerned about. The dress part that his grandma is making I'm not worried about fitting. She has the measurements and if its a little big so what. The concern comes from what I learned today talking to grandma. They, whitney and nichole I would guess, are making a tutu out of sparkly tulle to go over the dresses for the little girls. This will just have an elastic waistband and slip over their dress. The tutu is what I am concerned about looking horrible. I know they have a tendency to make them huge and very full and I don't want it to over power the girls. Hopefully it is just a couple layers of tulle and it looks cute but alas living here and everyone else being there means I will have to wait until Friday night before the wedding to see what everything looks like and how it is going to fit.
Im done stressing about it because how its meant to turn out is how it will and I can't do anything to change that. I just need to make sure I am ready with everything else. Now I get to go shoe shopping and probably get two new pairs of shoes. I also may be getting a new bra, woohoo…not, and then pick out what jewelry would look good. I might be making the programs too but still waiting to hear on that so if I don't hear anything I won't make them and thats that.
Harpers dress on the other hand I am a little concerned about. The dress part that his grandma is making I'm not worried about fitting. She has the measurements and if its a little big so what. The concern comes from what I learned today talking to grandma. They, whitney and nichole I would guess, are making a tutu out of sparkly tulle to go over the dresses for the little girls. This will just have an elastic waistband and slip over their dress. The tutu is what I am concerned about looking horrible. I know they have a tendency to make them huge and very full and I don't want it to over power the girls. Hopefully it is just a couple layers of tulle and it looks cute but alas living here and everyone else being there means I will have to wait until Friday night before the wedding to see what everything looks like and how it is going to fit.
Im done stressing about it because how its meant to turn out is how it will and I can't do anything to change that. I just need to make sure I am ready with everything else. Now I get to go shoe shopping and probably get two new pairs of shoes. I also may be getting a new bra, woohoo…not, and then pick out what jewelry would look good. I might be making the programs too but still waiting to hear on that so if I don't hear anything I won't make them and thats that.
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Where's the Communication??
So all this wedding stuff happening so quickly it has everyone stressing out. The lack of communication going on definitely isn't helping. I have always felt the communication with Colby's family was not great especially when it came to keeping us informed. I think it may be worse right now. The main problem we have is that we live so far away and can never get a hold of anyone. They don't answer questions and then the people we do get a hold of eventually don't always have the right information or any answers at all. We have offered to help with whatever is needed but no one tells us if they actually want us to do anything. Today I actually talked to the bride and she made a comment about me offering to do the programs but never actually said if she wanted me to do them or not. I'm just going to have to try again.
The huge communication problem we are having is with the attire and who is actually doing what. For example they already planned on Harper being a flower girl, got stuff to make her a dress and a matching clip with her cousin Myra, the other flower girl but didn't ask/tell us until today. This only happened after Colby was taking to Myra's mom and made a comment about how we were just assuming Harper wasn't in the wedding since we haven't been told anything. Guess its a good thing he was talking to her or else we would of never known until we got there the day before.
That is another thing. We aren't going to see anyone or be down there until the afternoon before the ceremony. At first Julia had said it would be easier if I/my mom made my bridesmaids dress considering my current situation (a belly and boobs that are pretty much growing everyday and will until I give birth) but now apparently their grandma, who is doing the rest of the dresses, is going to make mine and Harpers dress. I don't like the idea of this since I won't ever get to try it on before I have to wear it and no time to take it in or let it out. I was told his grandma thinks it will be fine if she makes mine because she will just make it bigger where it flairs out so my belly will for sure fit. That concerns me because the measurements I give her would be with how big my belly is right now and it wouldn't necessarily need to be that much bigger (I wouldn't think). I don't want her to make it so big just to have room to grow and then I end up looking just fat and frumpy in this oversized dress. I would prefer to look like a cute pregnant lady. I would also like to know what it looks like so I know what kind of undergarments I need to wear. Maybe I am just being overly controlling but I would rather have the opportunity to try it on and then adjust it before the wedding ins't of just hoping it fits when I get there. I am not as worried about Harpers dress but again I just don't like the idea of never seeing something that we are suppose to be wearing for such a big event with pictures that will be around for a long long time.
This is really stressing me out and I don't need the extra stress. We are already trying to make it by with just one income and its hard!! We are really feeling the pressure of running out of money right now. That stress on top of all this not knowing crap with the wedding is just almost too much. I'm trying to not worry about either one too much because I know it will all work out eventually its just having the faith while getting there that is hard.
The huge communication problem we are having is with the attire and who is actually doing what. For example they already planned on Harper being a flower girl, got stuff to make her a dress and a matching clip with her cousin Myra, the other flower girl but didn't ask/tell us until today. This only happened after Colby was taking to Myra's mom and made a comment about how we were just assuming Harper wasn't in the wedding since we haven't been told anything. Guess its a good thing he was talking to her or else we would of never known until we got there the day before.
That is another thing. We aren't going to see anyone or be down there until the afternoon before the ceremony. At first Julia had said it would be easier if I/my mom made my bridesmaids dress considering my current situation (a belly and boobs that are pretty much growing everyday and will until I give birth) but now apparently their grandma, who is doing the rest of the dresses, is going to make mine and Harpers dress. I don't like the idea of this since I won't ever get to try it on before I have to wear it and no time to take it in or let it out. I was told his grandma thinks it will be fine if she makes mine because she will just make it bigger where it flairs out so my belly will for sure fit. That concerns me because the measurements I give her would be with how big my belly is right now and it wouldn't necessarily need to be that much bigger (I wouldn't think). I don't want her to make it so big just to have room to grow and then I end up looking just fat and frumpy in this oversized dress. I would prefer to look like a cute pregnant lady. I would also like to know what it looks like so I know what kind of undergarments I need to wear. Maybe I am just being overly controlling but I would rather have the opportunity to try it on and then adjust it before the wedding ins't of just hoping it fits when I get there. I am not as worried about Harpers dress but again I just don't like the idea of never seeing something that we are suppose to be wearing for such a big event with pictures that will be around for a long long time.
This is really stressing me out and I don't need the extra stress. We are already trying to make it by with just one income and its hard!! We are really feeling the pressure of running out of money right now. That stress on top of all this not knowing crap with the wedding is just almost too much. I'm trying to not worry about either one too much because I know it will all work out eventually its just having the faith while getting there that is hard.
Monday, October 10, 2011
5 weeks…!?!?!
Yesterday, Sunday, Colby and I received some interesting news via text message from his brother, Austin. Austin and his girlfriend had gotten engaged in June and were planning a wedding for next June. Colby talked to him a couple weeks again and they didn't know anything about plans and were considering just going to the courthouse to get married and then having a reception later. Well that is not the case anymore. They will be getting married November 19. Yes this November. Yes, in less then 5 weeks. This also means I will look like a huge pregnant lady in the wedding pictures being a good 8 1/2 months pregnant, 3 weeks from my due date!!
Me being that close to my due date is not really a concern for anyone because they hadn't even really started planning yet and now have to get everything put together in about 5 weeks. I have offered to help but being 6 hours away there is only a limited amount I can do. I am suppose to be helping my mom make my bridesmaid dress. However, we are going to be waiting until the beginning of November to start so we have a better idea of how big my belly and boobs are going to be.
I really hope that everything works out for them and they can get everything down and don't forget anything. Marriage is a huge thing to get into and I really hope they are ready and get everything they want in this wedding and aren't settling just to get it done. I do have concerns about them not being ready to be married like they are still living at home. I hope they can afford to get their own place really soon after the wedding. I really try to just keep my opinions to myself because this is their life and they need to do what they want and they rest of us should just be there to support their decisions. One thing however that Colby and I have been talking about that is Austin needs to figure out and let everyone know what is going on with their mother. She is really only a part of Austin's life so we are pretty sure she will be invited but none of the other boys really care to have her in their lives. One big thing with us is that we didn't tell her about this baby but it will be hard to conceal if she is there. Also he needs to consider that Julia really really dislikes her and can hardly stand to be in the same room as her. This is important to keep in mind since Julia is letting them use a lot of her wedding stuff, is doing a lot to make the wedding happen so quickly and it letting them both live at her house.
This will be a couple of crazy and potentially drama filled weeks ahead of us and I hope everyone involved can remember what this is all for and the true meaning behind the craziness.
A little baby update. He is growing great, my weight is great, not too much or too little, and my blood pressure is nice and low. He is moving a lot. I can really feel it almost to the point that it hurts a little when he kicks me or just moves around. You can actually see my belly move around when he does. Its kind of creepy but really cool at the same time too. I also have been getting heartburn really bad again with this one. Supposedly this means the baby will be born with hair but we will have to wait and see I guess. The due date is fast approaching, just like the wedding!! Less then 5 weeks till the wedding and less then 8 weeks till my due date. There is a lot to do but the dates won't wait for us to get everything done so we better just be prepared.
Me being that close to my due date is not really a concern for anyone because they hadn't even really started planning yet and now have to get everything put together in about 5 weeks. I have offered to help but being 6 hours away there is only a limited amount I can do. I am suppose to be helping my mom make my bridesmaid dress. However, we are going to be waiting until the beginning of November to start so we have a better idea of how big my belly and boobs are going to be.
I really hope that everything works out for them and they can get everything down and don't forget anything. Marriage is a huge thing to get into and I really hope they are ready and get everything they want in this wedding and aren't settling just to get it done. I do have concerns about them not being ready to be married like they are still living at home. I hope they can afford to get their own place really soon after the wedding. I really try to just keep my opinions to myself because this is their life and they need to do what they want and they rest of us should just be there to support their decisions. One thing however that Colby and I have been talking about that is Austin needs to figure out and let everyone know what is going on with their mother. She is really only a part of Austin's life so we are pretty sure she will be invited but none of the other boys really care to have her in their lives. One big thing with us is that we didn't tell her about this baby but it will be hard to conceal if she is there. Also he needs to consider that Julia really really dislikes her and can hardly stand to be in the same room as her. This is important to keep in mind since Julia is letting them use a lot of her wedding stuff, is doing a lot to make the wedding happen so quickly and it letting them both live at her house.
This will be a couple of crazy and potentially drama filled weeks ahead of us and I hope everyone involved can remember what this is all for and the true meaning behind the craziness.
A little baby update. He is growing great, my weight is great, not too much or too little, and my blood pressure is nice and low. He is moving a lot. I can really feel it almost to the point that it hurts a little when he kicks me or just moves around. You can actually see my belly move around when he does. Its kind of creepy but really cool at the same time too. I also have been getting heartburn really bad again with this one. Supposedly this means the baby will be born with hair but we will have to wait and see I guess. The due date is fast approaching, just like the wedding!! Less then 5 weeks till the wedding and less then 8 weeks till my due date. There is a lot to do but the dates won't wait for us to get everything done so we better just be prepared.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
Last Weekends of Summer
The last post was right before our trip to Kansas. That trip was not great to say the least. We were over half way there when we were told, for the first time, that his brother who invited us to come down and stay with them would not be there that night (friday) because they were going back to see Colby's parents and not be back until sometime Saturday. Well that sometime saturday was not until after midnight!! To top that off we found out that his brother had to work Sunday afternoon too. We were so mad that we drove all that way to spend time with him, his girlfriend and our niece who is growing so fast and we don't see very much and then they didn't care to spend hardly anytime with us. It still makes us mad because we feel like we are making this effort to be a part of their lives and be there as our niece grows up and they could care less how often they see us or how our kids/us are doing. Im not sure I can even express how mad we were about this visit but the little time we spent with them (like 4-5 hours less then our driving time one way!!) was really fun and we really enjoyed it.
After that weekend we had something every weekend until this last weekend. We went camping with my family for our annual family reunion. We love going camping and the reunion is always fun. Colby and I had a big fight and a really serious conversation about our relationship. I have always had a problem expressing my emotion and being able to let other people in and Colby is so not like that at all. I think the conversation was good to get things out in the open about how we were both feeling but it was really hard at the same time. Just wish we would of been able to enjoy the weekend since we get to spend very little time together now that he is going to school and working. The weekend did end up being pretty good though
They next week Colby started school, which takes up a lot of time but he really wants to get his bachelors degree so this will be life until May 2013. That weekend was the SD State Fair and Colbys parents came to visit. The plan was for then to leave Saturday morning get here and then go back Sunday afternoon. Well I guess that their plans changed once they got here. They got here spend literally like 8 hours with us and then decided that we would leave Sunday morning when they got up. They were staying at a hotel so that meant when they left the fair that night at like 8 we didn't see then again. It was frustrating because again we invited them to make the effort to have contact and they didn't really care about seeing us for that long. It wasn't even like that had to be back to KS for anything since Monday was labor day and everyone had the day off. But whatever at some point we will only give as much effort as they give and then who knows what will happen or how often we will see each other, maybe once or twice a year. That is just sad that there is the potential for my kids to not really know one set of their grandparents. I know all too well how this goes. The rest of the weekend was good though. I ran into some old friends and got to spend more time with my family. We actually feel like they care about seeing us so it is fun hanging out with them. I love spending time with my nephews.
This last weekend we were finally home for the first time in 3 weeks. We are starting to get everything outside ready for winter, which is coming sooner rather then later. Our garden is still going great but tomorrow night it is suppose to get really cold and we are under a freeze warning. We still have some tomatoes and cucumbers so hopefully it doesn't freeze. So far we have been about to can pickles and salsa and froze some tomato sauce I made. I am still going to try and can some jalepenos and probably some tomatoes. We will see how much more I can get from the garden. I am looking forward to fall weather but definitely need to switch out some of our wardrobe to get ready for colder weather.
The colder it gets the closer we are to seeing our new baby and Colby being done with his first semester back. Hopefully the class times for next semester work better with his work schedule and maybe some more can be online so he isn't having to go into class. The driving back and forth takes time away from us and it is gas and money too. I already want this semester to be over. I'm also trying to enjoy my time with Harper before the new baby gets here. Our lives are about to change and get crazy!
After that weekend we had something every weekend until this last weekend. We went camping with my family for our annual family reunion. We love going camping and the reunion is always fun. Colby and I had a big fight and a really serious conversation about our relationship. I have always had a problem expressing my emotion and being able to let other people in and Colby is so not like that at all. I think the conversation was good to get things out in the open about how we were both feeling but it was really hard at the same time. Just wish we would of been able to enjoy the weekend since we get to spend very little time together now that he is going to school and working. The weekend did end up being pretty good though
They next week Colby started school, which takes up a lot of time but he really wants to get his bachelors degree so this will be life until May 2013. That weekend was the SD State Fair and Colbys parents came to visit. The plan was for then to leave Saturday morning get here and then go back Sunday afternoon. Well I guess that their plans changed once they got here. They got here spend literally like 8 hours with us and then decided that we would leave Sunday morning when they got up. They were staying at a hotel so that meant when they left the fair that night at like 8 we didn't see then again. It was frustrating because again we invited them to make the effort to have contact and they didn't really care about seeing us for that long. It wasn't even like that had to be back to KS for anything since Monday was labor day and everyone had the day off. But whatever at some point we will only give as much effort as they give and then who knows what will happen or how often we will see each other, maybe once or twice a year. That is just sad that there is the potential for my kids to not really know one set of their grandparents. I know all too well how this goes. The rest of the weekend was good though. I ran into some old friends and got to spend more time with my family. We actually feel like they care about seeing us so it is fun hanging out with them. I love spending time with my nephews.
This last weekend we were finally home for the first time in 3 weeks. We are starting to get everything outside ready for winter, which is coming sooner rather then later. Our garden is still going great but tomorrow night it is suppose to get really cold and we are under a freeze warning. We still have some tomatoes and cucumbers so hopefully it doesn't freeze. So far we have been about to can pickles and salsa and froze some tomato sauce I made. I am still going to try and can some jalepenos and probably some tomatoes. We will see how much more I can get from the garden. I am looking forward to fall weather but definitely need to switch out some of our wardrobe to get ready for colder weather.
The colder it gets the closer we are to seeing our new baby and Colby being done with his first semester back. Hopefully the class times for next semester work better with his work schedule and maybe some more can be online so he isn't having to go into class. The driving back and forth takes time away from us and it is gas and money too. I already want this semester to be over. I'm also trying to enjoy my time with Harper before the new baby gets here. Our lives are about to change and get crazy!
Thursday, August 18, 2011
A family on the Road
Tonight I am trying to get things packed up to go to Manhattan, KS this weekend. Colby and I met there while going to school at Kansas State University. Two of his brothers live there along with our niece and brothers girlfriend/baby momma. They moved into a new house at the beginning of the summer and are having a housewarming party this sunday. We don't really care much about the party. We mostly want to see everyone, especially our niece. We haven't seen then since June and she has grown a lot and has finally started to crawl. Another thing is no one came up for Harpers birthday and we want them to have a relationship with her and Colby one with his brothers. The hope is they will see us making an effort to keep a relationship and to just be a part of their lives. Then in return they will show that they care more about us and want to visit us up here too. Only time will tell on that one.
We wont be seeing his parents this weekend because they aren't coming out for the party. I think that is fine because in two weeks they are coming up here to visit and sometimes its nice to just hang out with the older siblings. However, his parents don't always get that. His dad thinks he can be just one of the boys now that they are older and is just trying to be their friend a lot of times. He can really turn the mood weird though, especially for me. Both of them are just weird around me for some reason and don't know what to say to me, which in turn makes me feel weird towards them and I don't know what to say to them. Its a vicious cycle that never seems to end. His step-mom just gets mad if we go to Kansas and don't see them. She doesn't understand that with his brothers living in one town and them in another we can't always make it work to see everyone. But she doesn't see it that way. She can be kind of selfish and when it come to who Colby visits, in her mind it should always be her first and for most but to Colby thats not always the case.
Anyways back to this weekend. I really hope everything turns out good and we have a lot of fun. I like visiting Manhattan. It brings back a lot of memories but it is weird at the same time because where my life was when we decided to leave and where it is now is so completely different. Honestly so are the lives of all his brothers. No one is dating the same person they were back then. One of them has a baby and another one is getting married. Looking back and going back to somewhere with some many memories, good and bad, makes you really evaluate your current life and how far you have come, at least in my case. I know I haven't come that far in everything like the relationship with Colby's parents. I think it might be worse then before except they aren't as vocal to him about their dislike for me since at this point they can't do anything since we are already married but did they really try to stop that from happening but that is a whole other can of worms that I haven't forgotten but am trying to get past so I won't go into it.
I won't be writing this weekend so Monday I will probably have a report about how the weekend went and our many adventures from this exciting thing I call my life.
We wont be seeing his parents this weekend because they aren't coming out for the party. I think that is fine because in two weeks they are coming up here to visit and sometimes its nice to just hang out with the older siblings. However, his parents don't always get that. His dad thinks he can be just one of the boys now that they are older and is just trying to be their friend a lot of times. He can really turn the mood weird though, especially for me. Both of them are just weird around me for some reason and don't know what to say to me, which in turn makes me feel weird towards them and I don't know what to say to them. Its a vicious cycle that never seems to end. His step-mom just gets mad if we go to Kansas and don't see them. She doesn't understand that with his brothers living in one town and them in another we can't always make it work to see everyone. But she doesn't see it that way. She can be kind of selfish and when it come to who Colby visits, in her mind it should always be her first and for most but to Colby thats not always the case.
Anyways back to this weekend. I really hope everything turns out good and we have a lot of fun. I like visiting Manhattan. It brings back a lot of memories but it is weird at the same time because where my life was when we decided to leave and where it is now is so completely different. Honestly so are the lives of all his brothers. No one is dating the same person they were back then. One of them has a baby and another one is getting married. Looking back and going back to somewhere with some many memories, good and bad, makes you really evaluate your current life and how far you have come, at least in my case. I know I haven't come that far in everything like the relationship with Colby's parents. I think it might be worse then before except they aren't as vocal to him about their dislike for me since at this point they can't do anything since we are already married but did they really try to stop that from happening but that is a whole other can of worms that I haven't forgotten but am trying to get past so I won't go into it.
I won't be writing this weekend so Monday I will probably have a report about how the weekend went and our many adventures from this exciting thing I call my life.
Monday, August 15, 2011
Back At It
Haven't been on here for a long time and boy have things changed. First of all my husband tried applying for a ton of police type jobs. He was a finalist for a correction officer job in Jefferson County, KS and felt really confident about it. So we decided we would move to Kansas. I packed almost the entire house!! and we were set to go besides a few minor things...we didn't have a place to live, neither of us had a job down there but hey we were taking a risk doing this and for some reason thought it would be worth it. We were down there for 2 or 3 weeks and based on our time there and the inability of Colby getting a job we decided to stay living in SD.
Another huge change for us that swayed our decision a lot is the we are having another baby. This wasn't really a surprise to us. We were trying/wanting to have another baby pretty close to Harp. As of now, I am over half way done and working on getting everything ready for our little guy. I rearranged Harp's room and moved around her clothes. We are almost ready just have to wait for the big arrival now.
So now that we are officially staying in SD, probably forever, we are really settling in. Making our house really feel like a home and like an adult/family home. I stay at home and take care of Harp and the house. My husband works nights at a factory in Brookings. We really wanted him on days but he decided to go back to school to pursue his bachelors degree. He will only have about 2 years before he should finish it up so hopefully working and going to school works out for him. Im not a fan of nights but we will see what we can work out with his school schedule and work schedule.
The small garden we planted this year has been doing pretty well we have a lot of tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, and potatoes. I am going to try my hand at some canning once we have more of one items to actually do it. We will have to see how that goes for me. I'll have to keep you posted since this is my first time trying canning.
That should probably be all for tonight. Little lady is fast asleep and I should head there soon so Im ready for the day when she gets up tomorrow. Our little 1 year old sure has a lot of energy and I just try to keep up. I'm going to try to be better at writing this. Until next time...
Another huge change for us that swayed our decision a lot is the we are having another baby. This wasn't really a surprise to us. We were trying/wanting to have another baby pretty close to Harp. As of now, I am over half way done and working on getting everything ready for our little guy. I rearranged Harp's room and moved around her clothes. We are almost ready just have to wait for the big arrival now.
So now that we are officially staying in SD, probably forever, we are really settling in. Making our house really feel like a home and like an adult/family home. I stay at home and take care of Harp and the house. My husband works nights at a factory in Brookings. We really wanted him on days but he decided to go back to school to pursue his bachelors degree. He will only have about 2 years before he should finish it up so hopefully working and going to school works out for him. Im not a fan of nights but we will see what we can work out with his school schedule and work schedule.
The small garden we planted this year has been doing pretty well we have a lot of tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, and potatoes. I am going to try my hand at some canning once we have more of one items to actually do it. We will have to see how that goes for me. I'll have to keep you posted since this is my first time trying canning.
That should probably be all for tonight. Little lady is fast asleep and I should head there soon so Im ready for the day when she gets up tomorrow. Our little 1 year old sure has a lot of energy and I just try to keep up. I'm going to try to be better at writing this. Until next time...
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